It seems like everywhere you turn these days, people are really mad and angry! Eveyone is walking around with a perpetual frown, cutting you off in traffic and talking rudely to service workers. It’s an epidemic of bad manners and downright rude behavior. 

From the political arena to our everyday lives, it seems like everyone is on edge. While it’s understandable that we’re all feeling a little tense, we have just come out of a 3 year pandemic of social issolation, there’s no need to let our emotions get the best of us. In this blog post, we’ll take a look at some of the reasons why people seem to be really mad, angry and aggressive lately, as well as some simple ways to de-escalate the situation and make the world a better place.

One of the biggest reasons why people are so angry and aggressive these days is because of the state of the world. With all the challenges we’re facing, from climate change to economic insecurity, it’s no wonder that people are feeling tense and frustrated. It can be easy to take out our emotions on those around us, but it’s important to remember that we all have a part to play in making the world a better place.

The Psychology Behind Being Really Mad For No Good Reason

When someone is feeling insecure or uncertain, it can lead to bouts of unreasonable anger. This is because the insecurity and uncertainty causes a feeling of vulnerability and a lack of control over the situation. This can lead to a fear of being taken advantage of or exposed to potential harm. As a result, the individual will often respond with an angry outburst in order to regain a sense of control or to protect themselves.

From a psychological perspective, their behavior is driven by the desire to protect the self from perceived threats. When someone feels vulnerable, the amygdala, the part of the brain that controls emotion, is triggered. This can lead to a fight-or-flight response which can manifest as aggressive behavior. This is an evolutionary response designed to protect the individual in times of perceived danger, even though the threat may not be real. This can lead to an overreaction and outbursts of unreasonable anger.

So in essence, you need to realize that when you are seeing a “Karen” get really mad in a store, they are probably really affraid or vulnerable in some other aspect of their life. It doesn’t excuse what they are doing, but it can help you keep perspective that allows you to step back emotionally instead of stepping into the argument. 

One of my favorite sayings is “The only one you can control is yourself.” But to that I always add “And it’s even hard to control yourself sometimes.” 

Social Media Isn’t Helping Our Anger Issues

Another reason why people seem to be so angry and aggressive is because of the rise of social media. With the ability to instantly share our thoughts and feelings, it’s no wonder that people are getting heated over topics that may not even be important in the grand scheme of things. Additionally, with the rise of “fake news” and “alternative facts”, it can be difficult to find reliable sources of information. All of this can lead to arguments and debates that can quickly get out of hand.

What Can We Do When Someone Is Really Mad or Angry?

So what can we do to de-escalate the situation and make the world a better place? First of all, it’s important to remember to be respectful of other people’s opinions and beliefs, even if you don’t agree with them.  Just let them say their peace. You don’t have to agree or disagree with someone. Saying “That’s interesting” can be enough. Or even saying “I can see why you feel that way.” The point is to be neutral and not escalate the conversation. Maybe they just need to feel heard and that can make them feel calmer too. 

It’s also important to take some time to step away from the situation and take a breather if you find yourself getting too heated. Additionally, if you find yourself in an argument with someone, try to focus on the facts and not let your emotions get the best of you.

When dealing with friends or family that seem really mad or angry lately and that is out of character for them, make sure you take some extra time with them to find out if there is something else going on to trigger this sudden mood change. 

Again, sometimes just listening can be enough to make someone feel better. 

Listening is an essential skill that has been lost in the age of social media. We are so focused on talking, posting, arguing, and voicing our opinions that we have forgotten how to really listen. True listening is not just hearing the words that someone is saying, but actually taking in every nuance and detail of what they are trying to communicate. It involves being present and understanding the tone of voice, facial expressions and body language.

When we listen to someone with an open mind, we can learn and absorb so much more than just the words being said. We can gain insight into how the other person is feeling, what their motivations are and why they are saying what they are saying. Listening is also a way to build trust and strengthen relationships, as it conveys respect and shows that we value the opinion of the other person. 

Learning to really listen can lead to more meaningful conversations and understanding of others, which in turn can lead to more fulfilling relationships. Additionally, listening with an open mind can help deescalate someone’s anger, as we are able to truly understand where they are coming from and what they are feeling.

Finally, one of the most effective ways to bring positive emotions into someon’e life is to give them cut flowers. Not only do cut flowers have the power to bring beauty and peace to any setting, but they can also be a great way to show your appreciation for someone who may be feeling angry or frustrated. Whether it’s a bouquet of roses for a loved one, or a single daisy for a stranger, cut flowers can be a great way to show someone that you care.

Studies have shown that cut flowers can bring positive emotions. One study found that people who received cut flowers reported feeling more joy, stimulation, and appreciation of nature. Other studies have found that flowers can reduce stress and anxiety, and increase feelings of general happiness. 

The presence of flowers has also been linked to improved moods, higher self-esteem, and even faster recovery times from sickness or injury. While there hasn’t been a study of cut flowers and anger issues, it’s still a gift that should help encourage a smile and help someone feel less stressed and more appreciated. That can’t be a bad thing.