I’m not a relationship expert but I don’t usually get flowers for Valentines so I know it can feel like you are in a different reality from everyone else. Valentines day, or any holiday really, can be a lot of pressure. Both on people in relationshipships and those that are single. 

Since I don’t feel qualified to talk about relationship issues I thought this might be a great time to try out the OpenAI tool that has been all over the news. I asked it to provide some relationship advice in the form of a “Dear Abby” type exchange. It didnt’ quite get the idea of Dear Abby but with a little tweaking, I think the advice was overall pretty good. 

Keep reading to see what our AI overlords have in store for relationship advice of the future:

Dear A(b)i,

I’m feeling really unappreciated by my partner. We’ve been together for a while and I didn’t recieve a gift for Valentine’s Day. I’m starting to feel like they don’t care and our relationship is breaking down. What should I do? – No Flowers

Dear No Flowers – I’m sorry to hear that you’re feeling unappreciated. Feeling unappreciated in a relationship can be difficult and can lead to an unhealthy dynamic between partners. It’s important to remember that it’s not just about the gift – it’s also about feeling seen by your partner.

The first step you can take is to have a conversation with your partner about how you’re feeling. Be sure to express your feelings in a non-confrontational way, and encourage them to do the same. It’s also important to consider other aspects of the relationship. Are there areas where your partner is showing appreciation and you’re not recognizing it? Are you speaking each other’s love languages?

What Is A Love Language?

Love languages are ways of expressing love and appreciation to someone else. They are often used in relationships to show how much you care for someone. They can be physical, verbal, indirect, or even through actions. Being able to recognize and interpret the love language of your partner is key to a successful relationship.

The Physical Love Language

When it comes to physical love languages, this could include physical touch, such as hugs and kisses. This type of love language is often used to show physical affection and to bring a couple closer together. It can be especially important in long-distance relationships.

The Verbal Love Language

Verbal love languages are expressed through words, such as compliments, expressions of gratitude, and “I love yous.” This type of love language can be used to show appreciation and to let your partner know that you are thinking of them. It is also important to be aware of your partner’s verbal love language and to use it to show your love.

The Indirect Love Language

Indirect love languages involve actions such as doing things for your partner or helping them out when they are in need. This type of love language is often used to show that you care for someone in a more subtle way. Examples could include doing chores around the house, sending your partner thoughtful gifts, or taking them out for an evening. This type of love language is important in any relationship as it helps to strengthen the bond between two people. It can also be used to show your partner that you are willing to make an effort to be with them.

Overall, recognizing and interpreting the love languages of your partner is a key to a successful relationship. Being able to express love in the various ways mentioned above, and understanding the love language of your partner can help to create a stronger and more meaningful bond.

It can be extremely difficult to feel unappreciated in a relationship, and it can be especially hard on a day like Valentine’s Day or a birthday or anniversary that is meant to be about showing love and appreciation. It’s important to remember, however, that feeling unappreciated is not just about getting flowers or a gift; it’s about feeling seen and understood in the relationship.

Communication: The Ultimate Love Language

The most important thing you should do is talk to your partner about how you are feeling. It’s important to approach this conversation in a non-confrontational way, without accusing or blaming. You can express your feelings and let your partner know that you need to feel appreciated in the relationship. Communication is key to building a strong relationship, so it’s important to talk openly and honestly about this issue.

If, after talking to your partner, you still feel unappreciated, it may be necessary to consider if this is a dealbreaker for you. If you decide that it is, then it’s important to be honest with your partner about your decision and to end the relationship in a respectful manner. You may also want to consider getting professional help to ensure that you are making the best decision for yourself.

No matter what you decide, it’s important to remember that feeling unappreciated in a relationship is a serious issue that should not be taken lightly. If you feel like your partner is not showing you the appreciation you need and deserve, it’s important to address this issue in an open and honest conversation. Doing so can help ensure that your relationship is strong and healthy.